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“Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I live), and I’d be meeting the letter of the law with a couple of Band-aids. But I have a gut feeling that if I go anywhere that there are people—and particularly anywhere there are children—nobody’s going to be too happy about my Band-aids. The enforcement is social; women just don’t go around topless in the US.
It bothers me because it’s unequal, but it also bothers me in its implications: that my body is inherently sexual, and a man’s body isn’t. It feels like men are being viewed through the first-person lens of “it’s nice to feel the sun on my skin, and I don’t mean anything by it” and women are being viewed through the distinctly third-person lens of “it’s inappropriate for me, a heterosexual man, to see her sexy parts.” It ignores the experiences of people who are turned on by male chests and somehow manage to contain themselves when they see one.”
— The Pervocracy: My boobs want to be free. (via sexisnottheenemy)
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“Hate is like you drinking poison and expecting me to die.”
“Yes, I know who my father is.”
“I am not a thug.”
“Prejudice is injustice.”
“I am a college grad.”
“Black love does exist.”
“I am not a nigger.”
“I will not let hate get me on my bad side.”
“I am not suspicious.”
“Racism is mental illness.”
“Let your haters be your motivators.”
“I am not a drop-out.”
“Disrespected but never destroyed.”
“My child is not a target.”
“I am not a lazy person.”
“<3 is stronger.”
“I say it loud: I am black and proud.”
“I am beautiful” “I am an American too.”
“America was built on our backs.”
“I am the future.”
OMG I just fell in love with this ad!<3
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guys like to complain about how hard it is to get a girlfriend and how they’re always being put in the ‘friend-zone’
maybe if they actually TRIED building an attractive nest out of pebbles they would find a female to mate with before the harsh winter came, did they ever consider THAT
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The Story Left Untold: 2 Broke Girls and The Rape "Joke" -
I’ve got a dissertation to write, so naturally what I am doing with my time at the moment is drinking copious amounts of tea whilst watching copious amount of shit TV. One such TV show I’m taken with is 2 Broke Girls. So taken with it in fact, that I’ve been streaming it so that I can watch episodes released in the US and not just the ones available in the UK. The large majority of the TV show is really funny. It’s based on the friendship of two women in Williamsburg, Brooklyn (a premise the feminista in me enjoys); ones a hardcore type, all punk-ass and feisty played by Kat Dennings (Nick and Norah’s Infinite playlist, Daydream Nation and other equally awesome indie-flicks) and the other is an ex-billionaire who’s father has been sent to prison for corruption. Like I said, it’s really funny. Denning’s character, Max is an independent woman, all ice queen and quick witted, and I thought I liked her… But then she joked about rape.I had sort of forgiven the casual racial stereotypes thinking that maybe I was being overly sensitive. Perhaps it was okay to imply that the only reason you’d want to talk to the Asian guy was to solve a complicated maths problem… Portraying an Eastern European guy as a sexual predator with a passion for friendly sexual harrasment is all in the name of fun, right? And perhaps Canadian voices really are just too dull to take instruction from. It’s just a sitcom, and mostly, cool and edgy, so we can forgive it it’s momentary racism. Obviously.And then I figured, I’ll ignore the incredibly rubbish plot-line, because it’s not reality and I’m always being accused of needing to lighten up. It is a perfectly reasonable thing for a couple of down-on-their luck type women to spend 500 dollars on a painting, simply to destroy the thing, especially if you’re trying to start your own business. And I mean, why shouldn’t the only acceptable business a couple of women can get involved in be a lovely, feminine cup-cake business? Gosh. The list goes on. But that isn’t why I needed to write this. I wrote this because they crossed a threshold, and not, in my opinion, a kind of “comedic-breaking-taboo” threshold. It was just bad. Max begins her rape humour by undermineing date rape, which is just not cool. She makes a joke about how handing out business cards is just as needy as a one-woman theatre show, she mimics a whiny woman’s voice, saying mockingly:
“Somebody date-raped me and I didn’t think I’d live through it, but I did, but now I am stronger… and still needy.”
And at that point, my heart just dropped. I didn’t laugh. It wasn’t the kind of “Oh man, this is bad, but I find it funny anyway…” joke, it was just grim. Mocking anyone who has been through a tough time only to come out on top is wrong, but a rape victim, really? A few shows later, Max implies that if a guy is hot, it’s not rape. And that’s when I stopped watching. Which is sad, because I enjoy an American candy-coated, sugar-fest sitcom as much as the next woman. But, with such off-key and out-of-place humour coming out of the mouths of women who are supposed to be portrayed as educated and fierce, I just couldn’t take it.Ignoring the fact that the infamous serial killer and rapist Ted Bundy was attractive and smart, but still, definitely, a rapist, thus making Max’s claim that if a guy is hot it’s not rape, you really have to wonder how that joke made the cut. I naturally and perhaps wrongly assumed that the reason for it was that a chauvinistic male on the writers team had a dated and backwards sense of humour. But… no dice. It is a man behind 2 Broke Girls, but it’s Micheal Patrick King, the guy that brought us Sex and the City, which for the large part, I’d argue is about sexually empowered woman, and too right. So how could this guy make such a huge mistake?I did a bit of research. You know, if you don’t find something funny, you often get accused of being stiff, dull, boring and stuck-up. But hang on there, rape is a crime that affects 1 in 6 women, in a sense, it’s our fear and therefore, our right not to find it funny. There is an argument that if you can laugh at something, you’re part of the way to conquering it. But we’re not laughing at the men who commit this violent and brutal crime are we? Those jokes were built to make sure that women were the ones who felt blamed and that women were the ones who felt marginalized. Max’s joke was an example of a woman who had never had any experience of rape, making moral judgments on how another woman who had should feel and behave. You know what I say to that? Fuck off. Why would the way to correct this attitude in popular culture be to feed it further? I can’t see the logic in it. Jill Soloway, a screenwriter responsible forGrey’s Anatomy and Six Feet Under and self-professed feminist, has come out in support of the jokes on the sitcom and others like it saying:
“I think not allowing women to joke about rape is like not allowing people to process and let off steam about one of the main fears of our lives.”
But there is just so much wrong with that sentence. I do believe strongly in making jokes about a subject which undermines and strips the oppressors of their power and control, but that was not, in anyway what Max’s joke was doing. Not only did she liken over-coming a horrific sexual assault to being ‘needy’, she also contradicted Soloway’s claim by ridiculing another method of letting of steam, by mocking the ‘One Woman Show’.
So, can we make jokes about rape, ever? Yes, we can. If we’re using comedy as a tool which points out the inconsistencies about societies attitudes towards rape, if it’s a joke which cleverly and tactfully approaches the issue and if we remain aware, the whole time, that of an audience of 60 people, statistically, 10 of those women will have been victims of rape. Here’s a beautiful example from a comedy special by Hal Sparks called Charmaggedon… In the joke he highlights how as a society we are guilty of belittling date-rape, simply because it contains the word ‘date’. As if, somehow, agreeing to a date equates to giving your consent (which, FYI, it just doesn’t.):
“They just had a report that the ‘date rape’ drug is on the rise again. The ‘date rape’ drug is retarded. There’s no such thing as ‘date rape.’ She’s unconscious; once the raping starts, date’s over! It’s like saying, ‘It was a party murder, man!’ Yeah, great party until the machetes came out! Man, this party sucks. Or, ‘It was a tickle robbery! Hey you were laughing!’ Doesn’t mean you get to keep my wallet, fucko. If I take this mic stand and I bash a woman over the head with it then have sex with her unconscious body, is this the ‘date rape’ mic stand? No, it’s a fucking club! Don’t make up words.”
You know why that’s funny? Because it makes idiots of the rapists. ” ‘It was a tickle robbery! Hey you were laughing!’ Doesn’t mean you get to keep my wallet, fukko.”, is just genius. Rape surviror, Marnie Goodfriend knocks this on the head when she says:
“I think [joking about rape is] an easy way to mask a much larger issue. The reality is that one in six women will be raped in their lifetime. Some people use humor in the worst situations. That’s the only way I can rationalize why woman writers would use rape as a punchline. Because they have the power to change the cycle.”
And that is why I will no longer be watching 2 Broke Girls. Because they are not changing the cycle, they are merely helping endorse a society that thinks rape is ‘no big deal’, or a big deal but abstract and therefore, ‘no big problem’. I had to write this. It was a catharsis. But I’d be interested to know what people think. If you only take one thing from this though, 2 Broke Girls is funny at times, but only when it’s not being racist and sexist. So, if you have the option, don’t watch it. It’s basically shit.
being a grown up
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BABE!
No words: this outfit on this person is beyond amazing. If I saw them in the street I’d have to high five them for being perfect. LOOK AT THAT DRESS!
THIS OUTFIT.
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http://www.redbubble.com/people/no1fanmcr/works/8704918-some-women-have-penises
Rebloging this again cause it only has like 180 notes but the “Men have Vagina’s” has almost 1,700 notes. WTF?? What about us girls?
Please Love & Support ALL trans people! Us girls matter too & we get a lot more hate & hate crimes against us, so please remember, all of us struggle.
p.s. This is NOT a stab at trans men, I LOVE & RESPECT TRANS MEN & have rebloged the other one myself.
Just pointing out the deference in the way people treat & support us.
Thanks, I love you ALL! <3
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